According to the oxford dictionary, assertiveness can be defined as confident and forceful behavior. Taking responsibility for direct, honest communication, appropriate expression of feelings, making choices and decisions that respect your needs and rights and those of others. If you are concerned about thoughts of suicide or if you feel you are in immediate need of help, call 911 or the suicide prevention hotline at 1800273talk. This section of the youth deployment activity guide is designed to give you additional age appropriate resources that are helpful in teaching your child about emotions. We provide assertiveness skills training course modules, materials, activities and games for you to use in your assertiveness training courses and workshops. B ecoming assertive involves developing an awareness of what you need and want and believing that you have the right to ask for what you want. Assertive individuals take responsibility for their messages by using i statements. You may have a vague idea that you are having a problem with selfesteem, but feel unsure what areas are causing you the most problems or what you should do to begin to improve. Assertiveness is the ability to express your feelings and ask for what you want in the relationship. To describe and practise a number of assertiveness techniques. However, research on violence and mens roles demonstrated that many physical altercations result from poor communication which then escalates into larger conflicts.
Selfesteem worksheets selfesteem worksheets are a tool that can be used to assess where you most need work on your own sense of selfworth and value. Larsen and others published assertiveness training find, read and cite all the research you need on researchgate. The worksheet considers facial expression, posture, tone of voice and comments that could be linked to being assertive. Assertiveness, non assertiveness, and assertive techniques introduction difficulty with being assertive has stereotypically been a challenge ascribed to women. Being assertive is an important communication skill which can reduce your levels of depression and anxiety and improve your selfesteem. This program can be downloaded without charge from.
Ecoming assertive involves developing an awareness of what you need and want and. Although it doesnt come naturally to all, assertiveness is a skill that can and should. Communicating assertively is an essential skill for maintaining healthy self esteem. Assertiveness worksheet structure your response to each scenario. Strategies for creating success in college and in life.
Assertiveness, nonassertiveness, and assertive techniques. When most people talk about wanting to be more assertive, what they usually really mean is. The dbt skills building mastery and coping ahead are based on the feeling of achievement that we create when we finish something that weve started, when we get out of our comfort zone and do something that is difficult for us but still doable. Building selfconfidence and assertiveness is probably a lot easier than you think. To demonstrate the importance of determination in building resilience. Communication worksheets for adolescents therapist aid. Assertiveness skills training materials, activities. Assertiveness is communicating and expressing your thoughts, feelings, and opinions in a way that makes your views and needs clearly understood by others, without putting down their thoughts, feelings, or opinions.
This pdf from cfilc will give you a full list of assertiveness techniques including. Understand the principles and values of assertive communication. Help your clients develop their assertiveness skills with therapy worksheets and handouts designed for professionals. S1 introduction to social interaction this activity has two parts. It refers to a persons global appraisal of his or her value based upon the scores that persons gives themselves in different roles and domains of life harter, 1999. Assertive bill of rights express yourself adapted from. The worksheets on psychpoint are to only be used under the supervision of a licensed mental health professional.
Introverted behavior is not by itself a particularly good indicator of nonassertive or passive behavior, this is doubly true if one looks at behavior of istjs or even. Assertiveness when communicating with other people, it helps to keep in mind not only what you are experiencing thoughts, feelings, behaviours but also what they might be experiencing, which might be similar, different, or completely opposite to your experience and anywhere inbetween. That is, assertiveness is not a personality trait which persists consistently across all situations. Coping ahead is all about making a plan for ourselves where we strategically think about how to solve a potential negative situation in the future by. This workbook is comprised of several modules called sessions. Social skills worksheets social skills worksheets are an excellent tool for learning and practicing effective communication techniques, which can include both verbal and nonverbal behaviors. Assertiveness games and activities in the handful of discussion posts that i found, following is a compilation of some of my favorite ideas.
Nonassertive people in other words normal people do not generally want to transform into being excessively dominant people. To identify situations where participants find it difficult to be assertive. Selfesteem worksheets building selfesteem and self. An activity to consider being assertive in the context of supporting assertive communication. Authenticity to respectfully be honest and forthright about yourself, in the moment. And consider teaching assertiveness and conflict resolution skills where these are necessary. Selfesteem worksheets for kids in primary school primary or elementary school is a fantastic time to start helping a child develop selfesteem. Examine the communication styles listed below and then determine the best course of action to take in each sample scenario. Ask someone elses opinion, then listen to the answer. When you dont ask for my opinion and make decisions that affect both of us, i feel frustrated and unappreciated. Assertiveness is the ability to express your opinions, feelings, ideas, and needs openly, in a way that is true to who you are and respectful of others.
The aim is to practice behaving and communicating more assertively, and to reduce acting and communicating in passive and aggressive ways, which usually. Social skills worksheets use assertive communication. Assertiveness skills training materials, activities, training. Assertiveness is the ability to stand up for ourselves and to say how we feel when we feel we need to. This is a personal worksheet to help you understand yourself a little better. Facilitator guide uw oshkosh ccdet 4 march 2010 passive easily intimidated by others worries about others getting angry sometimes feels like a doormat walked on by others believes that hisher rights and opinions are not as important as those of other people avoids eye contact. Communicating 1 communicating effective communication, the foundation of social success, consists of. This section of the youth deployment activity guide is designed to give you additional age appropriate. A piece of stringrope that is approximately 4 metres long. However, research on violence and mens roles demonstrated that many physical altercations result from poor. Assertiveness games and activities worksmart worksmart. This information package is designed to provide you with some information about assertiveness what it is, what stops us from being assertive and how to become more assertive.
Assertive communication is defined by mutual respect, diplomacy, and directness. Every day, were in situations where being assertive can help us like asking someone on a date, approaching a teacher with a question, or doing well on a job or college interview. Assertiveness is the ability to express our thoughts and feelings openly in an h. Here are some other traits that are useful in building on your skills in assertiveness. Coping ahead is all about making a plan for ourselves where we strategically think about how to solve. Emotional intelligence to know what you are feeling and to sense how others might react to your assertions. As your young adult moves through their social and professional lives, practicing assertiveness becomes more and more important when working through complicated situations and developing their own identity. Improving assertiveness selfhelp resources information. Communication skills worksheets results communication skills for success goals of communication to inform you are providing information for use in decision making to persuade to reinforce or change a belief about a topic to build relationships some messages that you send may have the goal of building good will between you and the other.
Emotional intelligence is a wide range of skills that children of all ages can develop and improve. Assertiveness training putting it all together centre for clinical. The teen selfesteem workbook is designed to help teens engage in selfreflection, examine their thoughts and feelings that either enhance or detract from healthy selfesteem, and learn effective tools and techniques for building positive feelings of selfesteem and selfworth. Building your selfesteem and assertiveness skills 20052011, velsoft training materials inc. Heres to you and your team performing better, and achieving much more. Without a balanced and healthy level of selfworth, one cannot be clear about what one deserves to have nor will she or he be able to ask others for what is wanted or needed. Alternative behaviour styles in order to be clear about what assertive communication involves, it is helpful to describe the alternatives. Rather than assuming their partner can read their minds, they share how they feel and ask clearly and directly for what they want. Assertiveness is a way to communicate feelings, thoughts, opinions and beliefs in a respectful, clear and honest manner. Assertiveness training is essentially training in communication and social skills.
It involves standing up for yourself in a way that encourages conversation rather than defensiveness. Healthy selfesteem is the very first step to achieving confidence and learning to be assertive. The worksheets on the cd are in pdf format, and you will need adobe acrobat reader to view and print them. It teaches a way of behaving that aims to achieve a winwin situation in interpersonal relationships. These worksheets can be photocopied directly from the book, or they can be printed from the accompanying cd. Communicating assertively is an essential skill for maintaining healthy selfesteem. These skills are critical for emotional wellbeing and life success. Its the ability to speak up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful. Worksheets may be copied for educational purposes free and. Our assertive communication worksheet includes one page of psychoeducation, and a second page of practice exercises, that. Assertiveness is a communication style in which a person stands up for their own needs and beliefs, while also respecting the needs of others. In successful couples, both individuals tend to be quite assertive. Improving assertiveness selfhelp resources information sheets. A childs mind is generally much more flexible and open than an adults, so its ideal to begin planting the seeds of healthy selfesteem at an early age.